I’m thrilled to present this month’s group collaboration about self-love and acceptance.
Love is established from the very first moment a mother feels her baby flutter inside her tummy. This type of love is more than love at first sight.
Some might not believe in love before or at first sight because, when we look at ourselves in the mirror, we know exactly who is staring back at us.
We may be able to fool others, but we can’t fool that flawed reflection staring back at us.
So, how do we get past thinking about all the bad things we have hidden in our past?
Sometimes we need to step outside of our flesh and begin thinking in a more profound spiritual way.
First, you need to realize that you need to experience some form of love in your lifetime.
No need dredging up insecurities about whether or not you deserve to be loved. Everyone is worthy of a healthy relationship.
Next, love promotes healing to the mind, body, soul, and spirit.
Love is peaceful and unselfish.
There’s no friction or conflict involved in real love.
Finally, love is unconditional. There are absolutely no strings attached. It’s FREE. Love should be more spiritual than physical. Spirituality allows us to look beyond sin and flaws. We love for the sake of love and not for a specific feeling.
We must learn to love ourselves before we can love and be loved.
How do we obtain self-love?
Yes, you must take good care of yourself. You can obtain a strong sense of self by practicing daily prayer and/or meditation. You must set aside a few minutes for every day and simply reflect on goodness all around. Quiet mediation allows you the power to make contact with your inner spiritual person.
Face your weaknesses head-on
Sometimes facing any weak points in your life tends to make you feel less than your best. No one likes to be judged in this world. You must realize, you are human and you have and will always make mistakes. Facing your mistakes and insecurities will be your first step to the healing process.
Deal with old hurts and pains
You may not be able to see the actual scars of pain, neglect, or abuse, but they are there. The release of negative emotions and hurts will eventually rise to the surface. Be open to listen to people that truly love and care about you. These people may have a slight insight to these hidden secret places in your heart. Remember, you are not alone. Find someone who can empathize with your pain.
Forgiveness is for you. When you forgive someone else or yourself, you set yourself free. As I stated earlier in this post, there’s no one that knows your secrets better than you. You are the one that wake up each morning in your skin and walk to the mirror to look at the real person that no one else really knows.
Don’t beat yourself up too bad. However, you must do something to correct the way you see yourself.
You must repent and forgive yourself for the deep, dark secrets that no one knows about. It starts with you. You can’t simply forgive yourself without bringing that thing to the light. Expose it and move forward in healing.
Change is gradual
Baby steps. How old are you? ____ O.K, well, it took you that long to get to this point. So, don’t think you are going to change overnight. Start by capturing and seizing any bad thoughts about the person you were. The enemy wants to keep you bound by chains and shame. You can conquer anything, including your thoughts.
“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” 2 Corinthians 10:5
Foster healthy relationships
This is super important in gaining strength to self-love. You are meant to walk out this life with like-minded people who genually care about you. Not everyone will be able to be the right fit in your road to self-love and discovery. You will lose some people along the way–and that’s ok. Whoever isn’t for you must be against you. Don’t be afraid to do some house cleaning. This is about loving you and knowing you are extremely important and worthy enough to be with the very best people. You may have to cut off some family members too. You are worthy of finding people to walk the same path with you. These same people will begin to respect you, eventhough they may get mad in the beginning. Give them some time and if they are smart, they will see things your way.
We attract people similar to ourselves. If you live in darkness, you will attract darkness. If you live in light you will attract light.
These simple suggestions will help you get on the path to receiving self-love.
You deserve to encounter this love experience.
Please take time to visit this months blog collaborators:
Ajibola Sunday @ Inspirational Motivation
*Barb Caffrey @ Barb Caffrey’s Blog
Camilla Motte @ Moms on the Go
*Divyang Shah – I think my way
Jothish Joseph @ TheJothishJosephBlog
*Jane Love @ Harmonious Joy
*Manal a.k.a. iamthatgirl @ Sensible Nonsense
*Mylene C. Orillo
*Nicolle K @ Stories of a Highly Sensitive Introvert
*Sadaf Siddiqi. Taking One Step
*Sonyo Estavillo @ ‘Lil Pick Me Up
*Tajwar Fatma @ LifeAsWeHaveNeverKnownIt