1. Honor Your Relationship
Couples must honor their relationship to one another. It’s not only biblical, but it is crucial to having a lasting relationship in Christ. When honoring one another we have to respect each other. Couples must focus their efforts on giving instead of getting. When we give our love and attention to our loved ones we will feel better about ourselves because we know in our heart of hearts that we made our significant other feel wanted, needed, and loved. In return, we will get the same back tri-fold.
The word of God states “ “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband” (Ephesian 5:33) and “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves” (Romans 12:10)
Your background can affect your marriage. Make a conscience effort not to bring in discouraging things from your childhood or other past relationships, into your current relationship because it can damage it before it ever begins.
God gives us our individual personalities.
Remember: Lust and Passion doesn’t work for a lasting relationship.
2. Develop a BLACK BELT in Forgiveness
Forgiving and letting go of past hurts is one of the most critical tools for holding your marriage together. Forgiving is healthy for you and your spouse physically and emotionally.
When we hold onto disappointments, betrayals, or anger – it draws more energy than is ever necessary and could cause physical stress on our bodies, as well as mental stresses too. Lack of forgiveness will wear you down. Hate and bitterness can literally make you sick. Resentment can pound away at the foundation of your relationship. It’s like a house that’s sitting in a neighborhood with no one living in the house. Life happens, weather happens, and then eventually the house starts to deteriorate and then it will eventually fall down. Resentment and unforgiveness is the same way — it will eventually deteriorate your body and mind.
Forgiveness is the highest expression of love in our universe. We can’t get to where we want and need to go by reliving all hurts and/or disappointments of the past. Forgiving helps you get to your vision of where you want to go from here.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)